Couple steals immigrant’s child, declares “Finders, keepers!”*
But in any event, if you want somebody else’s kid it’s a good idea to maintain possession. That way, you can claim that it isn’t in the child’s best interest to be taken away from the only home he knows. Like when kids grow up in orphanages, that’s the only life they’ve known.
And of course it isn’t in a child’s best interest to take him out of an English-speaking household and place him in a Spanish-speaking household. Because it’s too traumatic. So people should never be allowed to move to other countries. And children should not be adopted by parents who don’t speak their birth language.
*They didn’t actually say that. But that’s what the defense boils down to.
It is irresponsible to just tell people to use condoms without acknowledging that conditions like poverty, patriarchy and homophobia play roles in the so-called risks we all take. Even with people who have seemingly escaped these broader contexts—say, a working-middle class white man such as myself—stigma can prevail. Stigma that is produced by homophobia and general ignorance, yes, but also by American society’s desperate need to discipline and punish, to affix blame on individuals rather than confront the systems in which individuals live. So the AIDS epidemic becomes a challenge of personal responsibility rather than a damning indictment of global public health. That personal responsibility, however, is tricky: I bore no responsibility for the epidemic, until I had HIV, when it became entirely my problem.
Abagond describes The Teflon Theory of American History:
The Teflon Theory of American History says that anything that took place over 30 years ago is Ancient History. It has Absolutely No Effect on the present. Or not much. Unless it was something good like the light bulb or the Declaration of Independence. Therefore those who make a big deal of the bad stuff in the past, like slavery, are Living in the Past and need to Get Over It.